Double standards in the workplace

Many of us, especially those from immigrant or working class backgrounds, grew up with a belief system that in order to be successful and well-liked, we must be polite, stay quiet and do as we are told. While that might have worked for our parents as a means to survive in a new country, it does not work in the corporate workplace today.

While we are overthinking, doubting and questioning ourselves, our more privileged colleagues — who have had generations of preparation, family connections and resources — are doing the exact opposite and taking off ahead of us.

The difficult thing for women of color (Asian Americans in particular) is that we face a double standard of workplace biases. We are stereotyped as ‘docile and submissive’ so if tend to be on the more timid or quieter side, we are often overlooked for opportunities. On the other hand, if we speak up too loudly or have strong opinions, we are seen as a ‘dragon lady’ or too ‘direct and intimidating.’

We have to strike a fine balance between the two and it’s not always easy to do. With the ‘labor shortage,’ the ‘Great Resignation’ and the DE&I initiatives that companies are implementing (at least claiming to), this is a great time for women of color to step up, reclaim our voices and take control of our careers.

What biases have you experienced in the workplace?